I keep getting WAY off topic…
This is about gender roles, for crying out loud. Something that should be easy.
But no, I keep digressing.
And it features a woman who is a medical examiner.
Assertive, no-nonsense, takes shit from no one.
Clearly, this show is going to be revolutionary! Of course women like that don’t really exist!
A show about a man with these qualities would be seen as boring, because all men are portrayed as being that way.
Eight percent of college men have either attempted or successfully raped. Thirty percent say they would rape if they could get away with it. When the wording was changed to “force a woman to have sex,” the number jumped to 58%. Worse still, 83.5% argue that “some women look like they are just asking to be raped.” —
Margo Paine, Ph.D. (Body Wars)
This is appalling, and one of many reasons why I publicly identify as a male feminist.
THIS SHOULD MATTER TO YOU!
THIS is what I mean when I say ‘rape culture’. I mean that cis men aren’t being told what they can do to prevent rape (or even what constitutes rape), whereas FAAB people and women are being constantly told to take responsibility for the ‘natural hazard’ that comes with their body and/or gender. That is victim blaming, that is rape culture and it’s all bullshit.
And this is why it isn’t fucking funny when you joke about rape like it’s this unforeseeable, impossible thing that doesn’t affect anyone.
You smoked and now you have lung cancer, no treatment for you! You knew that would happen!
You have an STI? Too bad, whore! That can happen when you have sex!
You were in a car accident? What the hell were you doing in a car? That can happen, you know! No ER visit for you!
You tripped and fell on your face and your nose is broken? Pfff, deal with it. Walking can result in tripping, you should’ve known that.
Your logic: it is
thanks for that.
And I was really happy with the turnout, especially since it was organized on such short notice.
Although I noticed a lot of trans* erasure. A lot.
I should’ve said something, but I wasn’t sure what to say or how to say it without seeming attacking or offensive. But now I regret not piping about it.
Because their girlfriends consent, because their girlfriends enjoy it. It’s not about man dominating woman because he’s man and she’s woman and that’s how it goes. It’s about two lovers, one who is sexually aroused by delivering pain/dominance/etc and another who is sexually aroused by receiving pain/dominance/etc.” —
It makes me sad that this even has to be said.
Don’t police other sexualities, the end.
a woman’s ideas are only as good as how many men support them
I forgot that women can’t be expected to know all the delicate nuances of the situation in Pakistan and Afghanistan and the world over, because if there’s anybody who handled the situation in Iraq and Afghanistan with tact, sensitivity, foresight, and thoroughness it’s the men in power at the time of the invasions. Drone attacks on Pakistani civilians are the height of delicate nuances. And no, I’m not saying that I have all the answers. I’m not in government (yet). But saying that men are equipped to handle these kinds of things alone? Yeah, you’ve done a bang-up job so far.
I forgot that because I am a person (note: I didn’t say a woman) who is reached through emotions, everything I say is invalid. Emotions are not invalid. They are the other side to your logical reasoning and equally as important as cold removed thinking.
I forgot that if I do ever go into politics, or revolutionary politics, or life-changing work, you’re all going to try to define me by the men in my life. This means that you’ll say things like, Her husband was a Kashmiri activist or Her dad was a staunch Republican which drove her into the arms of the other side. My autonomy will be taken from me and my politics diminished into what men have created for me/let me do rather than my own passion and choice.
I forget that if I do not have children and I go into revolutionary work, this will be A VERY BIG DEAL. Women can have careers that go beyond the norm as long as they fulfill their duties. There will be remarks made about how I’ve spent so much time agitating and stirring up shit that I can’t take care of children. Or if I don’t get married or have a female love or a non-heterosexual relationship. Somehow this will become everybody’s business and who I love will be used to discredit me.
I forget that if I step outside of my role in male dominated organizations or groups I will be shamed. If I forget my place, even in the Revolution, I will pay.
I forget. And then I am reminded. And then I conveniently forget again.
Every time you make sweeping statements about how children’s shows will never have non-hetero characters, you’re telling me that me and mine, simply by existing, are too obscene to be heard.
I know it perpetuates the whole “intelligence = worth” thing, but I don’t know if it’s exactly a slur. & the rest of the internet isn’t helping me out, so do any of you know?